Something I've learned about coping with the desires to use is that the majority of the time our so called urges stem from our emotions. Unselfconsciousness our emotions control us. Think about it you get pissed off at your woman and the first thing you want to do you is get drunk or get high. Think about this for example, I use to here a lot of guys say that if that woman didn't do this or that I wouldn't have violated my parole or I wouldn't have got my charge. On the other hand I would always say, it's not her fault, if you wasn't doing what you were doing you wouldn't be here. Back to our emotions controlling us,  have you ever thought about the most controlling emotion of all-our happy emotions-those are the ones we have to watch out for. Think about it we get paid, the bills are paid, so what do we do, we are happy so we go get us a good blast. We have to learn to control our emotions instead of letting them control us! Sincerely Jonathan